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Sharing a Personal Blog from the Heart 💖

Today, I'd like to revisit a blog post from a few years ago that still holds a special place in my heart 💜.




Lately, I've been reflecting more on this topic than usual, and the thoughts have grown stronger with each passing day. I've been debating whether to share what's been on my mind or keep it to myself. Please know that this post is not intended to offend anyone; it's merely a collection of my personal thoughts and opinions. These thoughts belong to me alone, and I don't expect everyone to agree with them.


In my line of work, I have the privilege of working with wonderful consultants, and I'm referring to my profession, my work, and what I observe and feel. What I'm about to express is my personal viewpoint. As a consultant, I believe we should always strive to be the best we can be for you, your babies, and your families. Our goal should be to leave you feeling more confident, empowered, and safe when you leave our care. We should endeavor to provide the best follow-up care in the world because that's what I believe all mothers and families deserve.


However, in my nearly 15 years of working with families from all corners of the world, I've noticed more and more mothers struggling to feel confident and empowered in their new roles. I see mothers who think their babies are difficult and terrible sleepers. I receive calls from distraught mothers trying to fit their babies into the mold of emails, books, and Dr. Google. At coffee gatherings, all they discuss is baby sleep and the quest for the perfect sleeper. Some mothers are unsettled by blogs and media posts they've read, leaving them feeling like they can't do anything right.


Many mothers don't know how to prepare a formula bottle because they've never been shown. Some feel compelled to be less than honest about formula feeding. They start doubting their own instincts because they're constantly bombarded with messages that they're doing it all wrong. They feel like failures because a blog suggests their baby should be sleeping through the night at 3 months or 9 months. Does that blog take into account the unique history and medical circumstances of every family that reads it?


Why would someone write a blog that instills fear and insecurity in new mothers and families? That's not an act of love. We all need to be mindful of the words we write because words are powerful. If they affect one mother, they'll likely affect many more. Fearful blogs have a profound impact on vulnerable families. What concerns me even more is the predicament of families who can't afford a consultant or baby specialist. As consultants, we must genuinely assess where we can do better, how we can best support our mothers, and how we can create a safe space for them at all times. Can they easily contact us during work hours if they're struggling? Where are we falling short in supporting our mothers and fathers in society?


Should we focus less on controlling our families and babies and more on providing strategies and peace? I'm certain there's much more to explore on this topic, and I'm committed to doing the necessary work to help families believe in themselves and trust their intuition on their parenting journey. How can our profession better serve our families?


Fifteen years ago, I supported many beautiful families, and in 2017, I support even more. However, what I've noticed is that many mothers are living in fear that they're doing something wrong. We have so much more love and support to offer. I firmly believe that no mother should feel unsupported in the face of sleep deprivation. What I do believe is that we need to rekindle the confidence of mothers, helping them feel secure in trusting their own intuition.


As I lay my head on my pillow tonight, I hope that together, we can be the change. We need to stop trying to control our babies and show our mothers how to create peaceful homes and sleeping babies. Is the pursuit of perfect sleepers and well-behaved babies truly fostering happiness and tranquility within families? Have we, as consultants, got it right, or can we do better? Can we support mothers in a way that allows them to relax more on their parenting journey, even if their babies aren't always perfect?


All I think about as a consultant is whether we are making the difference that is needed. I hope that the pursuit of perfect sleepers isn't causing more harm than peace. I also firmly believe that all babies are good babies 💗.


Good night, beautiful mothers.

Much love xx 💗🌸🌸

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